Thursday, September 16, 2010
Jealousy
I recently had to end a friendship with a former best friend because of jealousy. I had sensed that this friend was jealous for a long time, but I chose to ignore her condescending comments and habits. When I did this her actions intensified. Finally, I let her know that I didn't like her behavior, but instead of changing her attitude she just changed her tactic. Although it might have been easier to stay in that situation it was best to cut ties. If you have a friend that gets angry at your achievements or is just mad at you for being who you are, then that's not a friend. Here are a few signs that I hope will help alert you to someone's jealousy.
1. They are constantly making jokes and comments that put you down. Both women and men do this. If your "friend" is always making jokes at your expense GET RID OF THEM! Occasional teasing is fine, but if this is an ongoing thing then they are not joking. A true friend won't relentlessly tease you, especially about something you are sensitive or excited about.
2. They encourage you to make bad choices. This is a big one because we lean on our friends for support and guidance. If you have a "friend" that encourages you to make bad decisions, whether it's something as simple as buying an item that you can't afford, or urging you to do things that you are not comfortable with, then THIS IS NOT A FRIEND!
3. They are always belittling your accomplishments. No matter how small an accomplishment is, if you are excited about it then your friends should celebrate with you. If you are proud and happy about an achievement and your "friend" tries to minimize or diminish your moment then THIS IS NOT A FRIEND.
4.They are overtly and aggressively competitive with you. A little friendly competition won't hurt you. In fact in can be a great motivator when used in moderation. However if your friend is competing with you over any and every little thing , then THIS IS NOT A FRIEND.
5. They are always talking trash about you.(This one can be tricky b/c you might be engaging in trashy or questionable behavior so use this rule in combination with the others as an indication of jealousy, but not by itself.)
6.They try to isolate you from the group. Obviously this one only works if you are in a group of 3 or more people.If the person in question is always alienating you from the group or conversation, cutting you off or putting you down when you try to contribute to the conversation, then THIS IS NOT A FRIEND.
Anyone that is intentionally making you feel uncomfortable, unhappy and dispirited is not a friend or a person that you need in your life. Jealousy is a combination of admiration and hate so a jealous person will always be curious about what you are doing with your life. It's up to you to firmly put them in their place and/or to end the relationship because they will only bring negative energy and unneeded stress your way.
*As we all know, jealousy is not limited to friendships only. If you have a family member or co-worker who fits the description of a jealous person, try to talk to them about it. Sometimes a quick, "I don't appreciate it when you _______(insert problem here)" goes a long way. If that doesn't help or work, then limit your interaction with them.
Tuesday, September 14, 2010
Style Network is Casting In Dallas!
Are you or someone you know close with their mom? The Style Network is currently casting affluent(ish) moms and their daughters for the docu-series, Dallas Divas & Daughters. To be considered or to nominate someone email bonnie@4thfloor.tv ASAP! Eligible candidates must live in the greater Dallas area and daughters should be high school to college age.
Any entertaining mother /daughter duo, (daughters ages 16-23) based in the Dallas area can apply! Casting starts soon so hurry! If you have any questions or concerns, please email bonnie@4thfloor.tv
Now Casting For Season Now Casting for Season 2!
The Style Network is currently searching for Dallas moms & their
daughters for the second installment of the hit series, “Dallas
Divas & Daughters”.
Do heads turn when you two walk by? Are you sometimes
mistaken for sisters? Is your lifestyle the envy of everyone in your
town? Are you crazy for couture? Do you have a love/hate
relationship? Do people always tell you, YOU should have your
own TV Show? Producers want to know!
To be considered, email us right away! Please include contact
information, a current photo and your story.
Eligible candidates must live in the greater Dallas, Texas area and
daughters should be high school to college age.
bonnie@4thfloor.tv
(818) 325-6911
Take an A away from Gaga and you'll end up with Gag
I AM NOT A FAN OF LADY GAGA'S. There I said it. I've tried to love the gagster, but each time I listened to her music I just wished I was listening to Ace of Base. I watched her music videos and felt nothing. I EVEN CHANGE THE RADIO STATION WHEN HER MUSIC COMES ON! Sorry for these outbursts but I've been holding this in for quite a while. Being a staunch supporter of the gay community and an artistic person I have been submerged(drowned) in the never-ending sea Gaga Love. Even my elementary students ask me, Ms. C, don't you like Gaga? Normally I just stay quiet or nod in faux-agreement, but now you how I really feel about The Lady G.
Nigga That's Gay
Two controversial words my generation has been berated for using are nigga and gay. Many people have waged on this issue and now I'm here to offer my two cents on the matter.
WORDS HAVE MEANING, BUT ONLY, BUT ONLY (yes I repeated that on purpose) IN CONTEXT. As a writer and just as a human being who speaks I take this rule to heart. So, with that being the case if someone is saying, "That's my nigga." They are saying that's my friend. They are not saying that's my person that I know who is contemptable, inferior and less than me because they are Black.
Riding along that same wave of thought, if someone says "That's gay." They are generally using the word gay as a negative adjective to describe something unsavory, unjust, unfair or just not right. For example, if I lost my metrocard and someone says aw, sorry Mel, that's gay. Then that someone is using the word gay negatively which is offensive. Let's try something. What if people used nigga they way other people used gay.
Person One: I just failed all of my exams.
Person Two: Damn sorry to hear that. That's nigga.
Person One: I know. That's super nigga.
Random Stranger: That's OFFENSIVE.
The best way to kill a word is to not use it yourself. If you don't like these words don't use them and hopefully the people around you will take the hint and not use them around you. It is impossible and hypocritical to forbid certain communities from using the word, but allow others to say it. Words are free for everyone that can say or write them. If you are someone that is easily offended by what other people are saying then stop reading now because life will continue to be prettygoddamnedhard for you to fucking deal with whatever the fuck people feel like saying at any cockshittingfucking moment. If you are still reading, sorry to curse you out, just making a point.
Wednesday, September 8, 2010
Welcome Back?
Hi Guys and Gals,
As you can see I took an extended and impromptu hiatus from the world of blogging. I was fully prepared to let this blog fade into the past but during this break a strange thing happened. I kept getting all sorts of wonderful and interesting requests for topics on my blog. People would stop me mid sentence and say, you should blog about that, that's so true why don't you have a blog or something. All of these comments combined with my mother's aggressive insistence, Melyssah don't forget about your blog, did you blog today? Motivated me to come back.
So I'm back, I think. I don't know how long this will last before my next hiatus, but we'll see where this goes.
This blog won't follow the rules of grammar and therefore might not make sense. Good Luck.Oh and if you hate randomness, learn to love it because I'm ALWAYS random.
xoxo
As you can see I took an extended and impromptu hiatus from the world of blogging. I was fully prepared to let this blog fade into the past but during this break a strange thing happened. I kept getting all sorts of wonderful and interesting requests for topics on my blog. People would stop me mid sentence and say, you should blog about that, that's so true why don't you have a blog or something. All of these comments combined with my mother's aggressive insistence, Melyssah don't forget about your blog, did you blog today? Motivated me to come back.
So I'm back, I think. I don't know how long this will last before my next hiatus, but we'll see where this goes.
This blog won't follow the rules of grammar and therefore might not make sense. Good Luck.Oh and if you hate randomness, learn to love it because I'm ALWAYS random.
xoxo
Sunday, May 16, 2010
People that live in glass houses, shouldn't walk around naked...
Glass houses are gorgeous, glamorous, and luxurious but I don't know how comfortable I'd be living in one. I'm assuming that the neighbors aren't right next to you, but what if there' s a high-speed helicopter cop chase and they fly right over your house and you're naked? How embarrassing would that be? So I guess my question to you is, would you sacrifice privacy for beauty?
It's tempting, isn't it?
It's tempting, isn't it?
I like the swivel chairs.
This looks like a painting. I could live in a house that looked like a painting.
But, I would feel so exposed.
and Peaceful.
I could have lots of parties, using nature's light.
Blush colored bricks! C'est Romantique.
So what do you think? Is it worth it?
Friday, May 14, 2010
Help Wanted: Mystery Shoppers at the Dentist
Do you trust your dentist? If so, consider yourself lucky, or naive( it's your choice). Currently, I'm in between dentists because I don't trust the quack that my mother goes to. He does great work, but he is a CRIMINAL! Do you know what it is like to go in for a routine cleaning and have someone reek havoc all up in your mouth?
Don't get me wrong, I've felt the sting of a snickers bar on my teeth. I've vowed to never eat again because of an unbearably painful chip in my tooth. Routine dentist visits are an important part of a person's general upkeep. (Thanks to Obama it will be a part of my upkeep for at least the next 4 years.) But I also know what it is like to have a dentist list a series of indistinguishable codes that I need to have done-- or else.
3 months ago, I went to a specialist because I was freaked out about a small ,black dot I saw in my mouth. Luckily the dot was just normal skin pigmentation. The specialist told me that if I wanted he could remove my wisdom teeth for me, but if they weren't troublesome then surgery wasn't necessary. He also said that at my age wisdom teeth stop growing so they shouldn't be a problem, but if I wanted to be extra safe I could have them removed. He congratulated me on flossing regularly and told me I was lucky to have a good set of teeth in my head.
Of course I opted to not have the surgery. I was relieved that my mouth was fine. (F.Y.I. if you are a mild hypochondriac, please do not google your symptoms, or use web m.d. as this is the best and fastest way to drive yourself crazy.)
A couple of months later I needed a cleaning, so I went to my mother's dentist and by dentist I mean money-hungry liar. This man insisted that I had ex rays, told me that I had a crap ton of cavities, and insisted that I get my wisdom teeth removed. He also offered to do some simple (expensive) cosmetic work on my teeth. Mid-way through this consultation a weaselly looking man walked in. The dentist introduced him as his assistant. After he was done with my "cleaning" I followed Mr.Weasel into a small room and he attempted to set up a payment plan and a follow up appointment for all of this work that I hadn't yet agreed to. The conversation (ambush) went something like this.
Mr.Weasel: Thank you for coming in.
Me: You're welcome.
Mr.Weasel: So I hear you have a few cavities, you'll need a gum lift, your teeth are rotting inside of your head, and you have horrible halitosis.
Me: huh?
Mr.Weasel: That will be one million dollars.
Me: What?
Mr.Weasel: We don't take American Express.
Me: Come again?
Mr.Weasel: When can you come in again to begin your treatment?
Obviously this is a dramatization of what actually transpired, but the feeling behind it was REAL! So let me ask you this:
Have you ever been to a medical professional's office complete with their own room used to set up payment plans for work you haven't agreed to and might not need?
Have you ever been to a medical professional's office sitting in the chair, or laying down on the table, or spread eagle with your feet in the stir-ups and had a complete stranger walk in the room to listen to your examination?
Have you ever been told that you need lots of things done to you that you've never even heard of before?
At this point I realized that we are in desperate need of mystery shoppers at the dentist. For those of you unfamiliar with what a mystery shopper is, it is a person that pretends to be a customer, but is really grading the retail associates on their customer service, product knowledge, and overall work ethic. Generally, the mystery shoppers work for free, but get to keep all of their purchases. The retail associate doesn't know that the customer they are helping is a mystery shopper, they just get a report back from them.
So the American Dental Association should hire people(preferably those with teeth or those interested in acquiring some teeth), properly diagnose them, and then send them to different dentist to get their teeth fixed. In exchange for their labor, they can get their dental work done for free. Wouldn't this be a great way to keep dentist honest? Those that are mis-diagnosing or over-diagnosing their patients will get in trouble, and the world would be a little better for it.
Don't get me wrong, I've felt the sting of a snickers bar on my teeth. I've vowed to never eat again because of an unbearably painful chip in my tooth. Routine dentist visits are an important part of a person's general upkeep. (Thanks to Obama it will be a part of my upkeep for at least the next 4 years.) But I also know what it is like to have a dentist list a series of indistinguishable codes that I need to have done-- or else.
3 months ago, I went to a specialist because I was freaked out about a small ,black dot I saw in my mouth. Luckily the dot was just normal skin pigmentation. The specialist told me that if I wanted he could remove my wisdom teeth for me, but if they weren't troublesome then surgery wasn't necessary. He also said that at my age wisdom teeth stop growing so they shouldn't be a problem, but if I wanted to be extra safe I could have them removed. He congratulated me on flossing regularly and told me I was lucky to have a good set of teeth in my head.
Of course I opted to not have the surgery. I was relieved that my mouth was fine. (F.Y.I. if you are a mild hypochondriac, please do not google your symptoms, or use web m.d. as this is the best and fastest way to drive yourself crazy.)
A couple of months later I needed a cleaning, so I went to my mother's dentist and by dentist I mean money-hungry liar. This man insisted that I had ex rays, told me that I had a crap ton of cavities, and insisted that I get my wisdom teeth removed. He also offered to do some simple (expensive) cosmetic work on my teeth. Mid-way through this consultation a weaselly looking man walked in. The dentist introduced him as his assistant. After he was done with my "cleaning" I followed Mr.Weasel into a small room and he attempted to set up a payment plan and a follow up appointment for all of this work that I hadn't yet agreed to. The conversation (ambush) went something like this.
Mr.Weasel: Thank you for coming in.
Me: You're welcome.
Mr.Weasel: So I hear you have a few cavities, you'll need a gum lift, your teeth are rotting inside of your head, and you have horrible halitosis.
Me: huh?
Mr.Weasel: That will be one million dollars.
Me: What?
Mr.Weasel: We don't take American Express.
Me: Come again?
Mr.Weasel: When can you come in again to begin your treatment?
Obviously this is a dramatization of what actually transpired, but the feeling behind it was REAL! So let me ask you this:
Have you ever been to a medical professional's office complete with their own room used to set up payment plans for work you haven't agreed to and might not need?
Have you ever been to a medical professional's office sitting in the chair, or laying down on the table, or spread eagle with your feet in the stir-ups and had a complete stranger walk in the room to listen to your examination?
Have you ever been told that you need lots of things done to you that you've never even heard of before?
At this point I realized that we are in desperate need of mystery shoppers at the dentist. For those of you unfamiliar with what a mystery shopper is, it is a person that pretends to be a customer, but is really grading the retail associates on their customer service, product knowledge, and overall work ethic. Generally, the mystery shoppers work for free, but get to keep all of their purchases. The retail associate doesn't know that the customer they are helping is a mystery shopper, they just get a report back from them.
So the American Dental Association should hire people(preferably those with teeth or those interested in acquiring some teeth), properly diagnose them, and then send them to different dentist to get their teeth fixed. In exchange for their labor, they can get their dental work done for free. Wouldn't this be a great way to keep dentist honest? Those that are mis-diagnosing or over-diagnosing their patients will get in trouble, and the world would be a little better for it.
Wednesday, May 5, 2010
Why?
Tuesday, May 4, 2010
10 Reasons Why Elizabeth Taylor is Fiercer (Better for those of you that don’t speak mo) Than Marilyn Monroe
1. Just in case you missed it Elizabeth Taylor’s full title is DAME Elizabeth Taylor. Dame as in knighted by the queen. That’s right, royalty status.
2. In addition to being a dame, she’s also a dime (perfect 10 baby) The woman is stunning.
3. What has Marilyn Monroe actually done for you, (inspiration alone can't pay the bills) or anyone else for that matter?
4. I realize that number 3 isn’t a reason, so now I will list some of the awesometastic things that Dame Elizabeth Taylor has done besides bless us with her presence on Earth:
• In 1991 she founded the Elizabeth Taylor HIV/AIDS foundation
• She makes and sells jewelry. (QVC, honey)
5. She can actually act. She has two Academy Awards and was nominated 5 times.
7. Liz was biffles with Michael Jackson. (R.I.P. M.J.)
8. She was born with first names to spare: Elizabeth Rosemond Taylor. Marilyn was born with the name Norma Jeane Baker. There’s no comparison really. Really.
9. Charlotte from Sex and the City named her precious doggy after the Dame.
10. Liz Taylor outlived her opponent in this competition, and still looks great.
*They are both icons in their own right, I just think Liz does it better.
Besides, if this was a Whose Image is on the Most Tacky Memorabilia competition, Marilyn would win. (Unless Lucille Ball was involved in which case Lucy would win by a landslide, naturally)
*They are both icons in their own right, I just think Liz does it better.
Besides, if this was a Whose Image is on the Most Tacky Memorabilia competition, Marilyn would win. (Unless Lucille Ball was involved in which case Lucy would win by a landslide, naturally)
Saturday, May 1, 2010
Bright City Lights
I Can See Clearly Now...
Heartbroken wasn't a strong enough word to express how I felt that day at EyeMasters. The glasses I wanted were gone. I asked the sales associate (the only reason why I know the proper title is because I've worked many retail jobs) if there were any other pairs like the one I missed out on, and if she expected a new shipment of the same frames. Barely listening, she gave me a flat "Nope", and proceeded to show me another ugly, stupid, pair of glasses.
After checking out other EyeMasters in the area, I finally lost hope of ever buying these frames. They were perfect;although the style is fairly popular, I have a smaller face and the others looked way too big.
After checking out other EyeMasters in the area, I finally lost hope of ever buying these frames. They were perfect;although the style is fairly popular, I have a smaller face and the others looked way too big.
Months later I went back to the original EyeMasters, and there they were again. I hastily snatched them up, but, and here's the kicker, I snatched them up and continued to look around-- just to make sure there wasn't any other pair out there for me.
That's when I realized, what is wrong with me? I finally possessed the pair of glasses I had lamented over, for the past three months, and here I was looking for another pair.
What is this, this thing inside of human beings that makes us want more? There is a little voice inside of humans. So although we may have something that makes us happy, instead of just enjoying it, the voice says, "Hey, this is great and all, but wouldn't it be better if we just added this..." This beast is why happy lovers go astray, why weed is a gateway drug, and why we have oreo cakesters. An oreo is a perfectly adequate cookie, but the voice told the makers at Nabisco, to just add this. For now, I'm going to call it One Up Syndrome. I didn't see a better pair of glasses for me, and I'm glad.
Cotton Commercials
I think the songs are catchy, and casting rising singers is a good marketing strategy. But why the hell does cotton have commercials? Is cotton going out of style? Are people no longer wearing garments made of cotton? Are blankets being replaced with a cheaper, easily accessible material? None of these things are happening. To me, advertising cotton would be like advertising grass. The touch, the feel (whispers) of grass the plant of our yards. The question is, do these commercials work? When you hear the calming song of cotton, does that make you think, "Hey, I need to buy some more cotton-products, I'm running low!"
While looking for youtube vids for this post, I ran across an amazing cotton commercial from 1992, starring your parent's favorite pal, the shaky-voiced crooner, Aaron Neville. Please enjoy.
While looking for youtube vids for this post, I ran across an amazing cotton commercial from 1992, starring your parent's favorite pal, the shaky-voiced crooner, Aaron Neville. Please enjoy.
Bienvenidos To My Blog
Welcome to my blog. Before you proceed let me warn you: this blog might not make sense, and this blog might be random. But I will promise you this, this blog is dangerously cheesy. (A Cheetos reference, sorry I can't help myself.)
Either way, I hope you enjoy your visit, feel free to share your thoughts, and come back soon!
xoxo,
Melyssah Jade.
Either way, I hope you enjoy your visit, feel free to share your thoughts, and come back soon!
xoxo,
Melyssah Jade.
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